If social media was a person, you카지노 게임 컬렉션�d probably avoid them.

Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are loaded with pictures of people going to exotic places, looking like they are about to be on the cover of Vogue, and otherwise living a fairy-tale existence. And, like all fairy tales, these narratives feel a lot like fiction.

When you compare the 카지노 게임 컬렉션�projected reality카지노 게임 컬렉션� to your lived experience, it would be easy to conclude that Research shows that young adults are especially vulnerable to this

We have also studied this trend in graduate students, our next generation of scholars: they too, implicitly compare themselves to their peers, sometimes . We카지노 게임 컬렉션�re socially trained to do this as shown by a exploring our relationships with other카지노 게임 컬렉션�s .

These implicit comparisons can threaten your : autonomy, competence and relatedness. Not just one of them. . And such comparisons have shifted life online towards an unwinnable competition.

We are outnumbered and out-posted by other people and it can make us feel unequivocally terrible if we let it. It카지노 게임 컬렉션�s never been easier to be insecure about ourselves and our achievements thanks to the ever-present torrent of 카지노 게임 컬렉션�updates카지노 게임 컬렉션� posted by mostly well-meaning people seeking opportunities for connection and validation.

Where did this come from?

Social media fills our days, but it hasn카지노 게임 컬렉션�t always. In fact, the birth of sites and apps like the micro-blogging platform (2007), the bite-sized conversation builder (2006) and star-studded (2010) all arrived on the technology scene in tandem with the . And yet, in just over a decade, these tools have exploded across our browsers, into our phones and onto our self-perceptions.

, which doesn카지노 게임 컬렉션�t sound too rough if we assume everyone is only using one app. However, the tendency for younger users to embrace multiple social media apps (and to access their accounts multiple times a day) is .

What that means for many of us is that we are spending hours each day connected and consuming content, from short tweets to beautifully staged images to painstakingly crafted selfies that sometimes make it seem like our friends are living the glamorous life, even when they카지노 게임 컬렉션�re waking up before dawn to take care of their little ones.

Social media presences are not inherently fake, but some people interacting in these spaces feel pressure to perform. And that카지노 게임 컬렉션�s not always bad!

As argued by , sometimes it카지노 게임 컬렉션�s helpful to pretend we are who we want to be in order to give ourselves the confidence to grow into our futures. There카지노 게임 컬렉션�s a rich history to in spiritual and growth-oriented spaces. But there카지노 게임 컬렉션�s a line between 카지노 게임 컬렉션�fake it till you become it카지노 게임 컬렉션� and spending the

Dark point of the soul

After conducting about 60 interviews and 2,500 surveys across two ongoing studies of post-secondary students, the findings indicate that being constantly compared to other people can demolish our confidence quickly.

For example, one first-year PhD student told us: 카지노 게임 컬렉션�I feel like a failure because I don카지노 게임 컬렉션�t have any papers out and I haven카지노 게임 컬렉션�t won a major scholarship like the rest of my lab group.카지노 게임 컬렉션� A first-year student?!

Another commented: 카지노 게임 컬렉션�All my peers are better than me, why am I even here?카지노 게임 컬렉션�

These are high-performing thinkers, and yet their confidence is being steamrolled in part because social media does not facilitate fair comparisons.

We wish these experiences were unique to certain contexts, but they are ubiquitous. We카지노 게임 컬렉션�ve become so used to seeing the world through social media that we give it with our lived experience. We implicitly compare our lives against the sensation of social media and consider it a fair contention.

Of course, the mundane doesn카지노 게임 컬렉션�t measure up to social media. Social media posts need to be epic to be shared.

Hardly anyone posts a 카지노 게임 컬렉션�meh카지노 게임 컬렉션� status update; our social media posts are typically at one extreme or another, good or bad, and we are left to compare our individual realities with an exceptional anecdote devoid of context. It카지노 게임 컬렉션�s all of the sugar, with none of .

It카지노 게임 컬렉션�s not all a pit of despair

Despite this relatively grim picture, the way we카지노 게임 컬렉션�re performing on social media isn카지노 게임 컬렉션�t entirely destructive. For starters, of people카지노 게임 컬렉션�s lives that we consume online (and the painful comparisons that often follow) has also spawned subversively creative acts of satire.

One example comes from 카지노 게임 컬렉션�,카지노 게임 컬렉션� a blog/book/parenting subculture that카지노 게임 컬렉션�s built around taking stock images of families and providing captions that poke fun of the impossible standards these images perpetuate. And articles like the recent 카지노 게임 컬렉션� remind us all that behind the carefully cultivated images rests a series of failed attempts and sometimes ridiculous efforts to capture the perfect shot.

There카지노 게임 컬렉션�s a perverse kind of creativity that our image-saturated web presence has spawned. And as often as we fall into the destructive cycle of comparing our messy, authentic lives to the snapshots of perfection that we see online, we just as often step back and laugh at how silly it all is.

Perhaps we카지노 게임 컬렉션�re merely playing along; isn카지노 게임 컬렉션�t it fun to think, just for a moment, that somewhere out there, someone is really living their best life? And maybe, just maybe, if we arrange our books in an artful composition or capture a stunning selfie on the 10th attempt, maybe we will be able to see the beauty that exists in each of our imperfectly messy, chaotic, authentic realities beyond the picture.

Maybe it카지노 게임 컬렉션�s good for us to 카지노 게임 컬렉션�act as if,카지노 게임 컬렉션� as long as we remember that the content we share and engage with online is only a fraction of our real stories. Remember, even fairy tales have a grain of truth.

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